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Trusting ourselves is the cornerstone of building trust with community. Trust requires vulnerability, and while vulnerability may be challenging, it is essential. Because vulnerability creates community, this allows for relational healing.

As we grew into our experience, we may have created a False Self to help us survive. As an example, we may have code-switched to ensure comfort for another at our expense or not taken up enough space for fear of retribution. We cannot fault ourselves for our survival.

Breaking free from our survival energy requires sharing our experiences truthfully. When we risk being vulnerable, we ask for what we need and find those who can give that to us. We become more connected to our True Self.

Through relationships, we give ourselves the gift of healing, relinquishing survival traits from our False Self and closing the gap to our True Self. This is relational healing. 

This week, I’ll take the leap to be vulnerable to create a better future not just for community, yet for myself.